Sex Ed 2.0: The Conversations We Missed
This is a paid post because it moves from insight into practice.
Inside, I go deeper with concrete examples, scripts, tools, and step-by-step strategies you can use to navigate dating and relationships more effectively.
I remember my high school sex ed class vividly (it’s not why you think).
It wasn’t because of the awkward conversations or overly detailed diagrams. I recall so much from that class because it was the first time I heard an adult (in this case an over muscled gym teacher) talk about their own sexual experiences, including how he was thinking about it at the time. And he shared all of this with a room full of teenage boys who were eager to one up each other with inappropriate remarks and observations. It was awesome.
Though it was fun, I also legitimately learned a lot. It wasn’t lost on me that the most important lessons I picked up weren’t in the official curriculum or in a textbook. That’s because the text and handouts were all about biology and basic facts. It all skipped the psychology behind physical intimacy. Implausibly, and perhaps accidentally, the oversharing gym teacher touched more on the “why” of sex, the motivations, and even some of the mind games.
They were important conversations that I’m sure many missed.
I’m going to do something similar, though without the personal play-by-play detailed stories. I’m going to share research on some lesser discussed, but important, aspects of sex and physical intimacy that will help you navigate dating and relationships.
Ready to move beyond basic advice? Here’s what I cover next:
Why shooting your shot matters more than you think, the 48-hour emotional cycle of initiation and rejection, and how to navigate both
The complete guide to sexual desire discrepancy: strategies tested on 229 couples, with clear winners and relationship-killing losers
How to tell if objectification is quietly eroding your connection, plus the communication framework that flips it to healthy desire
The fear-based, story-driven, and how-to messages proven to increase sexual novelty (with examples you can actually use)