Psychology of Relationships

Psychology of Relationships

Perfectly Flawed: How Realistic Expectations Create Lasting Love

Everyone deserves to have a great relationship, but “great” doesn’t mean perfect.

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Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski Jr.
Sep 18, 2025
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There is beauty in what is real, not just in what is perfect.

Perfect sounds romantic.

Perfect also creates pressure.

When you want or expect perfection, you also feel like you’re always falling short, like you deserve more.

And yet, pursuing perfection in love feels justified. But is the pursuit of relationships perfection smart?

As a dating and relationshi…

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