Psychology of Relationships

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Can You and Your Partner Build a Life Together?
The questions most couples avoid and when to ask them.
 • Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski Jr.
The Myth of the Complete Package
Your ideal partner isn’t “well-rounded.” Selectively extraordinary is more than enough.
 • Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski Jr.
Who You Became in Your Last Relationship Picks Your Next One
The breakup story you keep retelling is deciding who feels like chemistry.
 • Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski Jr.
The Dating Recession Is the Best Excuse You've Ever Had
How low-effort dating keeps you single, and the small constraints that fix it.
 • Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski Jr.
Why the Worst Partners Are the Hardest to Get Over
Your memory deleted the worst parts. Your imagination wrote the rest.
 • Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski Jr.
You Left the Date With Twelve Facts and Nothing Real
How “curiosity cues” get you the insight that standard questions can’t.
 • Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski Jr.
You Learned to Shop for Partners. Never to Build With One.
Finding people has never been easier. Keeping them has never been harder.
 • Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski Jr.
Why Staying Friends with an Ex Keeps You Stuck
Whether it works comes down entirely to why you want it.
 • Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski Jr.
Your Partner Is Pulling Away: Don’t Make It Worse
The distance isn’t the crisis. Your reaction to it might be.
 • Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski Jr.
Your Anxiety Is a Detector, Not a Defect
It sees the problem first. Then it hands you the worst possible plan.
 • Dr. Gary W. Lewandowski Jr.
Psychology of Relationships
Psychology of Relationships
Follow your heart, but take some science and strategy with you. Evidence-based strategies that help you make smarter decisions and build the relationships you actually want.
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Psychology of Relationships

Follow your heart, but take some science and strategy with you. Evidence-based strategies that help you make smarter decisions and build the relationships you actually want.
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